Moving abroad as an au pair is exciting, but let’s be honest it can also feel a little overwhelming at first. New country, new routine, new people. While you quickly become part of your host family, building your own social life is just as important for feeling happy and at home.

The good news? It’s easier than you think. Here are five simple ways to create your own community as an au pair.

2.Say Yes More Often
Sometimes building a social life starts with a small mindset shift. That coffee invite, beach day, or casual hangout might feel like a step outside your comfort zone but it’s often where friendships begin. The more open you are, the more opportunities you create

3. Join Local Activities
Whether it’s a gym class, a language course, or a sports club, joining local activities is a great way to meet people outside of the au pair bubble. It also helps you feel more connected to the culture and your new environment.

4. Explore Your City
Don’t wait for others to make plans. Go out and explore on your own visit a café, walk through a market, or spend time at the beach. Being out and about naturally creates moments where you can meet people and feel part of the local lifestyle.

5. Stay Connected, but Be Present
It’s important to stay in touch with friends and family back home, but try to balance that with being present in your new life. The more you invest in your experience abroad, the more rewarding it becomes.